Sandi (to me) was Bea Arthur on Golden Girls, the character Dorothy.

20 years ago i would’ve been Blanche, a slut. But now i’m becoming more like the old one, Sophia. Disenchanted.

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In life there’s always projects you want to do, but that you don’t do because you don’t have infinite time.

Like editing the subtitle files on movies … or even TV shows. Because the subtitles are never 100% accurate. But it’s not worth spending huge amounts of time on minor things. It just doesn’t matter enough to bother. Just let it go.

That’s what life becomes — learning to let go.

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Pop culture is all about fiction. The people aren’t real. The stories aren’t real. It’s all made up. Everything is designed to sell you on it.

Fiction is the way life is supposed to be, but never is. So take comfort in fiction, because you probably cannot in real life.

The way you think about yourself? That’s probably made-up too, full of somebody else’s tropes and ideas. Give yourself a break.

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I watched movies with Sandi. That was one of the things we did. It was usually movies about love and romance, Sandi‘s favorite topics. We watched some sci-fi too, and i even knew some Rom-Coms that Sandi didn’t. That was our bonding thing. But i didn’t always choose the best movies. Once i had us watch on the same night, Soylent Green and Blade Runner — not a good combination; but Sandi forgave me. Something like Julie & Julia or Love Actually were better choices.

Sandi was my Julia Child. ❤️

Sandi was my Robin Scherbatski (Cobie Smulders on “How I Met Your Mother”). ❤️