Do not enter into a relationship with someone who can’t fully take care of themselves. It’s bad enough that inequalities may develop later on; relationships should not start with such inequalities.

You know how much work relationships take; don’t take on an unnecessary extra job! When you’re dating someone, try to notice how well they’re doing on their own; if they are struggling, it’s a bad sign.

Instead of becoming involved with them, have the patience to encourage them AS A FRIEND to get their shit together on their own. Once they’ve shown that they can get by on their own — say, for a whole year — then you can consider going out with them. 

And if you do decide on another relationship, try to keep it casual — you don’t want to spend your time taking care of someone who can’t take care of themselves.

Don’t get sucked into a relationship-trap. You’ll have enough work ahead of you with your own life without taking on someone else’s issues. Take it slow. Take it easy.

If it seems like someone needs you, back away slowly; they’re not ready.

Try to only be involved with people as equals.